My husband and his first wife reared four children. But when she insisted he go to law school to earn more money than he made as a chemist—something he didn’t want to do—the marriage started to suffer. The resultant unhappiness led to awful arguments that eventually caused each of their four children to suffer emotionally and spiritually.
He completed law school, but was advised by doctors that if he insisted on practicing law, he would die from the stress. So, he never took the bar exam. His wife, who also had completed law school and taken the bar, divorced him. For nearly ten years, he was unable to find work as a chemist or in law. She had him arrested for failing to pay child support, but while he was in jail for months, he led Bible study classes. Some of the men who beat him up when he first arrived began coming to his Bible classes. Eventually, his parents paid his ex-wife the money she wanted, and he was released from jail.
Over the next few years, he reconnected with his children, teaching them principles like compassion for others, recognizing every person’s value and humanity, and working not just for a paycheck but also to enjoy their work and have a passion for what they do. He informed them that they didn’t have to be Christians, but he wanted them to be good people who were kind and supportive of others. They are evidence of his successful comeback. They are kind, gentle, compassionate, and loving people who join protests against all manner of injustice and inequality. I call his son the “Young Warrior” because of his efforts to form unions among workers and his comprehension that until all people are equal, none of us are free.
My husband is the epitome of the word successful because he never lost his faith that the Lord was with him. After ten years of celibacy, he prayed to the Lord for a wife. He joined a Christian dating site, and after a few dates, he saw a picture of me, a black female. He sent me an email, and because he was a white male, I, raised in the segregated South, was reluctant to enter a relationship. But it was the best $25 I ever spent to communicate with him. Now, after twenty-one years of marriage, I thank God every day for him. I am thankful also for the lessons he taught his children, who accepted me from the first day they met me. I think that is as successful as one can get! He is a resilient, kind, and funny guy, who didn’t let early devastation destroy his faith or his love for others, which I think makes him very successful!
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Beautiful. I can see a published book from your post.
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