There is no forgiveness today! We are the worse for it!

This post may be a little rambling today, as I am on five different medications, two antibiotics, but I felt compelled to write. I think it started for me with Kavanaugh’s confirmation for the Supreme Court. Then, it became a deluge with people losing their jobs and careers over incidents that happened many years ago.

And yes, if crimes were committed, then hold people responsible and seek justice for the victims hurt by their behavior. But, innocent until proven guilty in a court of law must never be lost in a democracy. I am not going to argue the innocence or guilt of anyone. That is not my job!

I have found that the media is not a good prosecuting attorney. So, I am concerned, because the meting out of punishments, such as the lost of jobs and opportunities to serve the nation, cannot be willy-nilly decided in the press in such a ideologically divided nation. Today, old photographs of politicians from each party are surfacing, and there is real terror flooding the nation, people afraid that their lives will be changed by the publication of one moment in the lives.

As I read the calls for the Virginia governor to resign because of an incident from his medical student days, I remembered the Twitter war when Kevin Hart was chosen to emcee the Oscars awards show, due to homophobic posts made years ago. I wondered what has happened to forgiving past antics and accepting people for who they say are or prove to be today.

Maybe there is a general belief in much of the country that people don’t and can’t change or mature in their belief. This might not be a problem if not for mass media, especially social media, where everything ever said or done is somewhere waiting to derail our future endeavors.

I used to tell my college students to be careful what they posted about clandestine actions on Facebook or MySpace or any other social platform. I warned them to judge how their actions may be viewed, especially the young ladies, when someone uploaded pictures of of them.

I knew that universities and employers had started using content from these platforms to judge the fitness of people for their jobs or schools. I said to them, “One moment caught in a precarious state could cost you all of your dreams, and years of hard work could become negated in one second of a camera’s flash.”

We have all said and done stupid things without thinking of the consequences later down the road. If people found out about our careless words or insensitive actions, they may have wondered what we were thinking at the time. But if we had altered our behavior and matured in our beliefs and actions, there was some modicum of forgiveness, a bestowing of the benefit of the doubt.

Let me be clear, I am, not excusing anyone’s behavior, and yes, we have to take responsibility for all that we say and do when it becomes common knowledge, but using the past to kill people’s opportunities for repentance and the displaying of a changed heart seems wrong.

Past racist, homophobic, sexist, ethnic beliefs or actions can sometimes indicate people’s people current beliefs, but I would hope that we would consider that just maybe they don’t. I know that my beliefs have changed over my lifetime and what I consider to be proper and righteous behavior.

So, yes, I somewhat understand the outcry for the governor’s resignation, especially if his antics were fueled by racial prejudice then and a desire to denigrate black people that still exists today. But, can we forgive him, even if he is the one in the Klan outfit? Has he grown any since the incident? Will he work on behalf of all Virginians, regardless of race, or does a picture from his past negate his ability to do so?

I admire Daryl Davis who works to befriend past and current Klansmen and make them friends. By showing forgiveness, he is changing hearts of an eclectic group of men.

As a Christian, I believe in changed hearts. This is my prayer before I judge anyone’s past and convict them without any evidence of lack of change:
Psalm 139:23-24–Search me, O God, and know my heart! Try me and know my thoughts! And see if there be any grievous way in me, and lead me in the way everlasting!

Fandango prompt is Eclectic. Word of the Day Challenge is Admire. Your Daily Prompt is Clandestine.

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  1. Forgiveness is said to be a “Christian” thing to do. People who are not Christians believe that forgiveness is ‘stupid’ and since they are not ‘religious’ they don’t care about that. Revenge or Justice is the world view. Justice and forgiveness go hand in hand.

    Unfortunately, unbelievers pick justice and loathe forgiveness. While we Christians preach forgiveness but shy away from justice.

    Most Christians think that, if you demand for or seek justice, then you are living in unforgiveness. In Christiandom you are expected to forgive and forget — especially when it’s a ‘brethren’ who committed the crime or offence.

    In such cases, pressure, veiled threats and scriptural blackmails are inflicted on the victims of a crime, committed by a so called brethren.

    Victims are accused of living in ‘sin’ of unforgiveness.
    Afterall if you have ‘forgotten’ the offence, you shouldn’t be pressing charges, right?
    With these sort of approach, a number of church organisations over the years have been guilty of aiding and abetting criminal offences.
    Unbelievers especially atheists are using that against the church today.
    I’m thankful that, some Christians independently and collectively are letting the law handle lawlessness and not manipulating the scriptures to ‘protect’ the brethen who have committed crimes.

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    1. You are so right! Justice and forgiveness goes in hand, for God forgives but He expects repentance and true change. I watched a video last night of a young preacher who used Genesis 19 on Lot offering his virgin daughters instead of two guests to a crowd of angry men. He preached on changing the atmosphere where we allow the “Lots” in churches, workplaces, homes, and families to suffer no consequences for the pain they inflict on our children. He called the men down to pray that they would not be a Lot or fail to hold such men accountable. I was amazed because when I read that passage, that offering of girls for gang raping is more abominable to me than if it relates to same-sex acts. But, women I believe read our Bibles differently. We don’t skip over Jephthah’s sacrifice of his daughter so easily, for we are reminded of a bias toward second-class citizenry. We feel deeply for our sisters in the Word, and therefore, our messages are often very different from what men take from the same passages of Scripture. Thanks for such an informed answer and response. It meant a lot to me.


      1. Thank you ma. And the Lot analogy is just insightful and new to me. I’m thinking the man didn’t leave a good legacy at all. God did destroy Sodom and Gomorrah, but his daughters carried Sodom/Gomorrah within them and birthed nations with it.
        Because of the “Lots”, we have a lot of wolves in sheep clothings going for leadership positions and perpetuating evil in the church.
        But the church chooses to be helpless because these wolves are holding important positions in church.
        “Touch not my anointed and do my prophets no harm” scripture has been abused and misused to silence righteous “opposition” in the house of God. It’s sad. And I’m grateful for those who have refused to be cowed, coerced, blackmailed and threatened from speaking against wrong doings.

        I was happy to hear of a pastor who reported to the police his church member who was physically abusing his wife.

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