Answering questions from SparksfromaCombustibleMind for February 11, 2019. I have not done so for a long time. So, here are the Valentine’s Day edition.
What is your favorite way to spend the weekend?
Douglas and I gassing the car up and going on a long drive to a state park, one with hiking trails and flowers. I like to read all of the tree markers, identifying trees. We usually stop somewhere on the way back and eat at some funky, no-franchise kind of place. We love ruins of any kind that help us see history, remaining learners.
Who do you admire most in the world?
The women who have survived domestic violence, and who have went to college to become the help they needed, such as counselors, lawyers, advocates. I met a young woman who was once left naked outside her home by her husband. When she tried to get help, lawyers tended to shy from these cases. She eventually went to law school, and her whole practice is basically women survivors of domestic abuse. I met these woman as part of a Survivors’ Speakers’ Bureau for AllState in the 1990s.
What do you regret not doing?
I wish that I had knew about learning disabilities when my oldest son was a child. I regret not getting him help in reading and basic school work. I, along with his teachers, just saw him as “bad” child, one that needed discipline. He told me one day after he was grown that he stayed in trouble because he preferred being seen s crazy rather than dumb.
If you see a puddle on the ground, do you walk around it or over/in it?
I walk right through it. One of the events that still makes my soul sing is splashing in a puddle. There is something liberating about it. I step in and just laugh in pure joy!
If you have a significant other or a spouse, how do you know that they want to make love, without them saying a word?
If he is breathing! Enough said. Baby Boomer alert!
What’s the most romantic gesture your lover has ever done for you?
He honored me by asking me to be his wife and traveling partner! It don’t get no more romantic than that, believe me!
What items would your romantic dinner for two contain?
A Greek salad, great bread (crusty on the outside and soft on the inside), a porterhouse steak from Ruth Chris Steakhouse, so thick it resembles a pork roast, baked sweet potato, and green beans with chunks of ham.
Does your lover make your heart pound and your pulses race, or is it a more comfortable together, I’m so glad s(he) is with me kind of thing? Do they make your heart melt?
As we are both in our late sixties, we try not to mistake having a heart attack with being impressed with each other, so none of that pulse racing stuff. We just enjoy the sweetness of each other’s company. He still makes me thankful to be alive to experience his amazing love for me. I try to remember to thank my God every day for loving me enough to give me Douglas.